cognitive behavior therapy
Struggling with constant doubts about your relationship, even when things seem “fine”? You’re not alone.
Relationship OCD (ROCD) can leave you feeling anxious, disconnected, and stuck in a cycle of obsessive questioning and compulsive reassurance-seeking.
I offer specialized CBT and ERP therapy for ROCD, available in-person near San Jose (Campbell, CA) or online throughout California.
What is Relationship OCD?
Relationship OCD is a subtype of obsessive-compulsive disorder where intrusive doubts and fears center around your romantic relationship.
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People with ROCD experience unwanted, distressing thoughts like:
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“Do I really love my partner?”
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“What if they’re not the one?”
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“What if I’m just staying out of fear?”
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"Is my partner cheating on me or being unfaithful?"
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"What if we don't have enough in common?"
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"What if I am more attracted to or more compatible with someone else"?
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These thoughts often lead to compulsive behaviors such as repeatedly seeking reassurance from your partner or other loved ones, overanalyzing every interaction, or constantly checking your feelings and emotions. These actions may provide temporary relief but ultimately strengthen the cycle of anxiety and obsession.
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How Relationship OCD Affects Your Life
Constant Doubts About Your Relationship
Frequently questioning whether you're with the right partner, whether your feelings are genuine, or if the relationship will last.
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Intrusive Thoughts About Other People & Comparisons
Frequently comparing your current partner or relationship to past ones, fearing the current relationship is not as good or authentic.
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Repetitive Reassurance Seeking
Continuously asking your partner for reassurance about their feelings, your relationship, or your own emotions.You might also constantly asked your friends and family what they think about your partner and your relationship.
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Overanalyzing Feelings and Checking for Signs
Obsessing over whether you truly love your partner, or if your feelings are "real" or just a temporary emotion. Looking for signs or clues that may confirm or deny doubts about the relationship, such as interpreting every small interaction or gesture.
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Perfectionism
Expecting the relationship to be perfect and constantly trying to fix perceived flaws or problems, even if they are not real or important to the relationship.
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Fear of Commitment
Obsessing over the idea of commitment and questioning whether you are truly ready or if your partner is the right one to commit to long-term.
My Approach to Relationship OCD
Relationships can be hard and OCD makes it so much more complicated. I understand how painful and confusing ROCD can be, especially when well-meaning people suggest you just “trust your gut.” My approach is structured and evidence-based, but also collaborative and compassionate. We’ll work together to break the cycle of rumination, fear, and avoidance—without trying to force certainty where it doesn’t exist.
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OCD treatment isn't about finding the absolute answer, but you can learn to stop ruminating and to trust yourself more.
Effective Treatment for Relationship OCD
In-Person and Online Therapy Options in California
I offer in-person therapy at my office in Campbell, CA, just minutes from San Jose, and serve clients throughout California via secure online sessions. If you’ve been searching for relationship OCD therapy, effective help is available.
Start Relationship OCD Therapy Today
You don’t have to keep doubting your way through your relationship. With the right tools and support, you can learn to live with uncertainty, trust your values, and build the connection you want.
Reach out today to schedule a consultation or ask questions about how therapy for ROCD works.
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About CAITLYN
I am a licensed marriage and family therapist with a master’s degree in clinical psychology. I have been working as a therapist since 2009, specializing in Cognitive Behavior Therapy for anxiety disorders and obsessive compulsive disorders. Before starting my own practice in 2021 I worked at a specialty anxiety/OCD group practice for many years, as well as community mental health, and school settings.
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My practice is located in Campbell, CA in the South SF Bay Area, near San Jose, Los Gatos, Saratoga, Los Altos, Mountain View, Sunnyvale and Cupertino.
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I have been working primarily with clients struggling with anxiety since 2012. ​Read more about my speciality training here.
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My approach to anxiety and OCD treatment is compassionate and personalized. This work is challenging but we will go at your pace and focus on the symptoms that are getting in the way of your life.
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